So excited to share that Beutiful Magazine interviewed us for their 2014 Issue 6! You have to check out their magazine because it's all about promoting positive body image and because the Love Average initiative is focused on in pages 29-34! Check it out!!
Let's face it...it's been a busy few months for me! I've been working two jobs, prepping for a newborn baby and well Christmas in our household is a month long affair. I feel like sometimes I've neglected this blog and initiative, which is something very dear to me. I just feel like I don't have the time these days, but I still fully believe in my mission and goals. I've completed my first draft of my book and I've spent some time querying agents. No bites yet. A few agents have told me that I need to work on building my platform but right now that just doesn't seem very plausible for me with all that is going on. In order to get a book deal, you need to have people who already would be interested in purchasing your book! I have no plans to make money off of the book, I just want my words and photographs to be heard and seen, but of course the world revolves around money. If I don't have people that will want to buy my book, no publisher will want to invest in it. I'm writing this blog post to give myself a firm kick in the butt! I'm hoping by writing and publishing this post I will be motivated to keep at it, regardless of what is going on in my life.
It's amazing how having goals and aspirations can make one (a.k.a. me) feel so guilty! So let's talk a little bit about guilt. I experience a ton of guilt on a regular basis. I feel guilty when I neglect housework, when I decide to relax instead of working, when I procrastinate and avoid all the things I need to do for our future baby and the list goes on. I know I'm not the only one out there that experiences this type of guilt, in fact I find it comforting talking to other women who experience similar feelings in their daily lives. For me, guilt is equal to anxiety. Many women experience anxiety or guilt in their daily lives and I think it is because we are taught at a young age what is expected of us according to our gender. Today, women are expected to do it all. They are expected to be successful, raise a family, have hobbies, be great wives and friends and on top of that be sexy and attractive. Well, I'm here to say that it's just not possible to do it all and that is okay! Can you tell I am trying to convince myself? No, I'm serious though. We need to recognize the fact that it is okay to only accomplish a few of those things each day, because it is a lot!
Some days I feel so overwhelmed that I literally sit around surfing the internet (a.k.a. doing nothing) all day. Would I feel less guilty if I got up and checked things off of my list? Absolutely, but that is not always in the cards. I sometimes get tired of feeling guilty so I push myself to start tackling things on my list. Motivation is sometimes hard to find, especially when we are faced with so many examples of women who appear they are doing it all and are perfect. I think I would like to read more about successful (or unsuccessful) women who struggle just as we all do. Take for example, magazines! Many magazines are starting to focus more on the success of women's achievements rather than their beauty and size. But for some reason I still find these articles stressful because the pressure to be thin is being replaced with the pressure to be amazing at life. I'm 26 years old and I love my life but I feel guilty when I read about 20 year old's who have accomplished so much more than I have. Just like I would like to see more images of real women in the media, I would like to hear more stories of real women. Women of all types, not just the successful "made it" types. I want to read about women who are working towards their goals and I want to hear about all their bumps in the road! It makes them human, and makes me feel okay to be human.
This post is a complete mess in terms of theme but I just wanted to get that all out there. Not sure if that counts as an accomplishment or not but I now feel less guilty for neglecting this blog and I'm motivated to check a few other things off my list today...well...maybe.
P.S. Happy New Year everyone!!!
By Emily Lauren Dick, Average Girl: A Guide to Loving Your Body