It is so important to talk to young children, especially girls, about what they see and hear about female bodies. Regardless of how you truly feel about your body, my advice is to "fake it until you make it." Never let a young girl hear you talk badly about your body or looks because what you say can have such an impact on how they view their bodies. It is also improtant to remember to be kind in the way you speak about your children because children who are critisized by their parents are more likely to have low self esteem and develop eating disorders than children who are loved and supported regardless. In a recent study, girls who thought that their mothers wanted them to be thin were two to three times more likely to worry about losing weight. Professor Alison Field from the Boston's Children Hospital explains that “while it’s less likely that parents are directly saying something about their children’s weight, a mother’s desire to become thinner can directly impact her children’s attitude."
Actress, Kate Winslet, speaks up about the importance of this issue. "When I was growing up there wasn't one woman in my environment who I heard saying something positive about her body. Everything I heard was negative, negative, negative," says Kate Winslet. Kate Winslet spoke out in 2003 regarding a 2003 GQ cover that was heavily Photoshopped. As a mother, she believes that showing her daughter that she feels beautiful will impact how her daughter sees herself. She believes that being positive about herself will help her daughter to fight against internal "fat talk" or body bashing. "I accept my body. I accept how I am and make the best of what I am given. Children orientate towards examples. That's why I talk solely positive about my body in front of my daughter. I say things like 'Hey, look at my strong arms!' Or I shake my butt and say 'Look at my fabulous butt!' I do that deliberately," she explains to German magazine Brigitte.
So mom's...don't forget to love your fabulous butt and tell your daughters too!